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Winning Child Custody

admin — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 12:45:35 +0000

Help to win child custody case – What follows is a partial list of what is included in this 100-Page immediately downloadable E-Book, “How to Win Child Custody”:

Documentation in child custody cases. How to properly document, plan, and prepare for your custody case. Empower yourself with knowledge and information.

How to properly control, guide, and manage your child custody case.

How to self-assess your situation so you can better determine the right plan to maximize your custodial timeshare. Do not rely solely on an attorney.

How to gather and organize relevant information and details pertaining to your child custody case. Know more and worry less.

Child custody factors and common allegations. Reduce uncertainty by knowing.

About attorney billing disputes and requesting attorney fees from the opposing party. How to reduce your attorney costs.

What you need to do to find the right divorce attorney or child custody lawyer.

How to properly interview family law attorneys so you know he/she is the right for you.

Things you can implement immediately to strengthen your child custody case and position yourself for a more favorable custody arrangement. Leave no stone unturned.

Strategies that can get you the child custody arrangement you want or even better.

Information attorney’s wish you did not know that can reduce litigation costs and attorney fees and increase your chance of winning child custody.

The most important strategy, which judges do not want you to know and attorney’s rarely ever disclose. Simple, legal, and guaranteed to impact your case!

13 bonus attachments added to the Appendices! Parenting plan worksheet, shared parenting assessment, parenting tips, primary caretaker checklist, sample parenting plan, and more.

Worksheets, examples, and more.

Telling your children about divorce

admin — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 12:38:17 +0000

Six professional Therapists share their expertise with you!

That’s right. Because this is such an important message, not one or two, but six professional therapists, experienced with divorce and mediation, contribute their considerable expertise to this guidebook. Their insight, advice, commentary and support add significantly to the value of How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? – making it a resource you can turn to again and again in the days, weeks, months … and even years ahead.

Psychotherapists, counselors, divorce attorneys and other professionals in the field endorse and support

How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce?

Deal With Step Children During Divorce

admin — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 02:48:33 +0000

Stepchildren
very often are overlooked during a divorce. This can be very damaging
to them. If you have a strong bond to these children, the pain of
separation will be no less than if they were your own children.

Steps

Treat them no differently than your own. They may need more love than your biological child since this is their second divorce.
If you are trying to protect your children from an abusive spouse, also protect your step children identically.
Understand that it’s difficult not to be angry during divorce, but you have to succeed for the sake of your children.

Related Tips and Steps

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Deal With Children in a Divorce Situation

admin — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 02:43:36 +0000

Dealing with children in divorce means thinking like a child while acting like an adult..

Steps

Try to see your ex through their eyes — as their mother/father.
Remember that you will probably have to deal with your ex for the rest of their dependent lives. Try to make the best of it.
Envision a happy life and healthy future for them.
Think of the benefits of the divorce — such as parents being happier apart and less fighting.
Talk with your ex about continuing toward the original goals you shared in having children.
Broach the divorce to the children together, if your ex is willing.
Encourage them to tell you how they feel about it.
Do not take their anger personally.
Try to maintain discipline using the same rules and structure
as prior to the divorce, unless those rules and structures were a cause
for the divorce.
Spoil them with attention, not things.

Tips

Accept your ex’s limitations.
Expect bad behavior from your children.
Remember to tell your children that you love them and always will, even when you’re angry.
Scientific studies show that the #1 cause of maladjusted kids
is conflict between the parents. Even if your marital/romantic
relationship has ended, you need to be partners in parenting for the
sake of the children both of you love.
try to tell your children the truth, they will find it out
eventually and resent you for any lies no matter how well intentioned
they were.
Put as much effort into your relationship with your ex as you would if you were together. be good exes, it can work with work.
remember when you embark on divorce that you will have to deal
with your kids relationship to any other person you have a relationship
with. It is not easy, it takes a special person to deal step children.
you, as a woman, will probably be alone until your kids leave home.Then
you will be an older woman and all that stuff is much harder.
Meanwhiles,your ex will not have that problem and he will settle down
and have more kids. If you think that you can handle this and still be
friends with him go for it. If not patch up that relationship cos, if
you can both work on it, it might just make life nicer.
put serious work into making your relationship with your ex
work. your kids feelings are more imortant than your silly point
scoring. Share present giving so there is no competition.give 50/ 50
money to Christmas and birthdays despite anything. do not give your
child anything to resent you for. they will find plenty when they are
teenagers no matter what you do.

Warnings

Don’t badmouth your ex in front of your children
If you do badmouth your ex, apologize to them
Don’t use your children to get back at your ex; your children
love both of you the same, using them against your ex, is like having
them choose which parent they love the most.
Most of the time, in divorce situations, somehow the children
are overlooked, almost forgotten. The adults are so wrapped up in who
gets what, that they don’t realize how bad they are hurting their
child(ren). Be sure to explain to your child, that they are still loved
by both of you, and don’t fight or argue in front of them. Be an adult
in this situation, and be strong for your child.

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7 Things Fathers Need To Include In A Parenting Plan

admin — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 20:31:44 +0000

7 Things Fathers Need To Include In A Parenting Plan That Could Help Them Win Child Custody by Shane Boyd

Fathers should include a detailed parenting plan in their divorce papers. This will help them avoid trouble in the future with their ex-wife. The parenting plan should include details of how the children’s lives are handled.

Having a parenting plan in place will help both parties feel better about how the child is being raised. It will also help relieve any anxiety you have about how the other party is raising your child. I’ve included 7 things you should include in your parenting plan in this article.

7 Things Fathers Should Include In Their Parenting Plan.

Children- The True Victim Of Divorce

admin — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 22:38:48 +0000

Children- The True Victim Of Divorce by Ruth Purple

The family
is the basic unit of society and every care should be taken to preserve
it by the state, church and the family itself. However, if counseling
and reconciliation cannot solve the conflict within the family, divorce
maybe seen as the best solution. To couples with kids however the
situation is much more complex as compared to childless couples.
Divorce can be devastating to the children and may leave a long-lasting
scar that may affect their being useful citizens of the community.
During the divorce process, the offspring’s will go through emotional
conflicts. Anger is prevalent. Anger at the present condition, anger
towards their parents, themselves and some may feel that they are to at
fault for the separation.

Feelings of sadness, misery and loss
are felt because there will be changes in where they will live. They
will lose the other parent, their friends, their school, people and
circumstances that stabilize their daily lives. They will feel
rejection. Studies have shown that boys and girls are affected
differently and respond in various manners. Boys are more rowdy because
they have to show and act out their inner feelings. They go on fights,
they are defiant. They cause disturbances and would not be still even
for a short period of time. They are the ones who will turn to drugs
and alcohol.

They girls on the other hand suffer inwardly and
become introverts. They are apprehensive and miserable. Thus they turn
to untimely relationships or sexual promiscuity that may lead to early
pregnancy or early marriage. Thus if not guided accordingly these
children tend to stop school and will waste themselves into substance
abuse. They will become citizens with emotional and mental illnesses,
criminals or discards of society. To save the children, the parents
should have the obligation to guide their children through the divorce
process and for a period after that until their emotional conflicts
have been resolved. They should subdue their own emotion turmoil and
together try to show the same affection and devotion for the children.

Explain
to the kids to make them understand why the parents have to go on their
separate ways. They have to be assured that they are in secured hands
despite the changes in the family set-up. During the divorce
proceedings, the couple should be civil with each other because this
will also have a bearing in alleviating the negative feelings of the
children. It will slowly enfold in their understanding that they are
undergoing a process and a change but they will still have their both
parents. After the divorce has been finalized, visitation of
non-custodial parent should be encouraged and made a positive
experience to everyone.

The children can then accept the
situation gradually and will cope with the changes in their lives. On
the other hand, the non-custodial parent is also encouraged to have a
hand in the affairs of the child and will be a constant partner in
guiding the growth of the children. Divorce however does not generally
leave negative reaction from children. In families where there are
constant conflicts, physical and verbal abuse, the children themselves
will welcome the situation that their parents will be separating. They
will be relieved by the daily stress and problems undergone by their
parents. It is the children of the families that are not at odds or
fight with each other that are mostly overwhelmed by the situation.

About the Author

The author of this article, Ruth Purple
, is a Relationship Expert who has been successfully coaching
individuals and couples in their relationships. Get A Copy of her
sensational ebook on Winning Over Infidelity. Experience a Happier Love Life.

Holiday Tips for Divorced Dads

admin — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 22:07:57 +0000

by Paul Banas

The Christmas and New Year season is almost upon us and many divorced dads are wondering how best keep to their kids happy without them feeling unhappily dragged from one parent to the other.

When the parents maintain a friendly, or at least professional, relationship it is easier to decide a good course of action mutually but when the opposite is true, everyone suffers, especially the children.

In a mature relationship, both parents would probably plan together what to do during the holiday season. For example, they would mutually agree to one parent having their kids full time at Christmas and the other full time at New Year.

This way, the children can look forward to receiving the undivided attention of both mom and dad over a defined period of time. Having the children over for lunch at mom’s and then rushing off to dad’s for an early dinner would subject them to a stressful feeling of being pulled apart at the seams. This kind of planning ahead lets everyone, especially the children, know what’s coming and that it is in fact, something to look forward to.

On the other hand, a bad or immature relationship between divorced parents might involve, at the least, hasty decisions taken at the last minute when no one knows what to do or where to go until the last moment. Some parents even rush off for lunch at mom’s and dinner at pop’s resulting only in stress, and the lack of a more prolonged quality time for the children.

Planning is the secret for a divorced dad. Plan ahead, even the whole year, and everyone involved will be much happier. In fact, this may even end up as a happy family tradition.

About the Author

Paul Banas is a founder of GreatDad.com. If you’re a divorced dad, discuss about relationship with children, sex life, raising kids, single parenting and other parenting topics at his Fathers Forum.