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Study that shared custody is positive

admin — Sat, 28 Aug 2010 11:57:17 +0000

SEAN BROGAN is ”enormously proud” of what he and his ex-wife, Ayela Thilo, have achieved for their family.

Divorced for nine years, they share custody of their three children, Arielle, 17, Sienna, 13, and Oliver, 11, in a ”week on week off” arrangement.

Mr Brogan agreed with the findings of the Shared Care Parenting Arrangements study that shared custody is positive for both parental satisfaction and children’s wellbeing.

”In a funny kind of way it has given the kids a sense of stability,” he said. ”They know where they’ll be at any given time, if they’ve got something coming up they see whether they’ll be with mum or dad and talk to that person about it.”

Equal time with parents children do well

admin — Sat, 28 Aug 2010 11:55:07 +0000

CHILDREN who spend roughly equal time with both parents after a divorce or separation are doing well, though no better or worse than children who spend most time with their mothers, a study shows.

Providing parents hold no fears for their children’s safety or for their own, most are happy with shared care, and make it work. Many mothers like the break and many children think the arrangement is ”fair.”

The study, commissioned by the federal Attorney-General’s Department, is based on the responses of 1028 parents and 136 children, and other data.

Conducted by a team under the leadership of the Social Policy Research Centre at the University of NSW with academics from the University of Sydney and the Australian Institute of Family Studies, it is part of a government-funded investigation into the impact of reforms to the Family Law Act made in 2006.

”On the whole the more contact a child has with both parents the better for the child,” said Professor Ilan Katz, the chief investigator. ”But if you impose shared care on situations where parents live far apart, where there is conflict, and the child doesn’t like it and wants stability, it can be damaging.”

The Child Custody Book

admin — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 06:25:48 +0000

This book fully, clearly, and concisely explains the process of court child custody litigation. It shows how custody decisions are made, what can be expected at each stage of the process, and how parents can insure that their abilities are clearly presented to persons with influence over the custody decision. It is intended to eliminate surprises that could lead to costly mistakes along the way.

Parents who settle custody disputes out of court will not only save tens of thousands of dollars, but will have avoided the rancor and hostility of a custody trial that makes future cooperation in raising the children almost impossible.

With help from a capable and experienced attorney, this book will allow the reader to present her/his case for custody in its best possible light. A must-read for divorcing parents, custody evaluators, family psychologists, and marriage and family therapists.

Winning Child Custody

admin — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 12:45:35 +0000

Help to win child custody case – What follows is a partial list of what is included in this 100-Page immediately downloadable E-Book, “How to Win Child Custody”:

Documentation in child custody cases. How to properly document, plan, and prepare for your custody case. Empower yourself with knowledge and information.

How to properly control, guide, and manage your child custody case.

How to self-assess your situation so you can better determine the right plan to maximize your custodial timeshare. Do not rely solely on an attorney.

How to gather and organize relevant information and details pertaining to your child custody case. Know more and worry less.

Child custody factors and common allegations. Reduce uncertainty by knowing.

About attorney billing disputes and requesting attorney fees from the opposing party. How to reduce your attorney costs.

What you need to do to find the right divorce attorney or child custody lawyer.

How to properly interview family law attorneys so you know he/she is the right for you.

Things you can implement immediately to strengthen your child custody case and position yourself for a more favorable custody arrangement. Leave no stone unturned.

Strategies that can get you the child custody arrangement you want or even better.

Information attorney’s wish you did not know that can reduce litigation costs and attorney fees and increase your chance of winning child custody.

The most important strategy, which judges do not want you to know and attorney’s rarely ever disclose. Simple, legal, and guaranteed to impact your case!

13 bonus attachments added to the Appendices! Parenting plan worksheet, shared parenting assessment, parenting tips, primary caretaker checklist, sample parenting plan, and more.

Worksheets, examples, and more.

Telling your children about divorce

admin — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 12:38:17 +0000

Six professional Therapists share their expertise with you!

That’s right. Because this is such an important message, not one or two, but six professional therapists, experienced with divorce and mediation, contribute their considerable expertise to this guidebook. Their insight, advice, commentary and support add significantly to the value of How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? – making it a resource you can turn to again and again in the days, weeks, months … and even years ahead.

Psychotherapists, counselors, divorce attorneys and other professionals in the field endorse and support

How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce?

Divorce Advice For Women

admin — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 05:37:24 +0000

Hi, my name is Tracy,

I went through a divorce myself, and have worked with divorcing women for several years. I know from experience what an impact divorce can have on a woman’s life.

When I went through my divorce, I was emotionally raw, worn down by all the decisions to be made, and frustrated by the lack of good information.

Consequently, I made my fair share of mistakes. Having learned my lessons the hard way, I made a promise to myself that no woman would ever have to face this journey alone.

As a result, I started the WomansDivorce website in 2001 to help other women going through a divorce, and have done so ever since.

Child Custody A to Z: Winning with Evidence

admin — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 05:23:45 +0000

Help! is the first word a parent yells when dealing with a child custody battle. Author Guy White cuts through and captures the essence of how child custody cases are won and lost. Child Custody A to Z navigates you through the flawed system of justice. Evidence is the most overlooked aspect of a child custody case. This book explains and addresses:

How to choose an attorney

How to impeach court experts

How to gather evidence

How to expose a personality disorder

How to investigate your case

Child Custody A to Z is replete with case studies that tell the real story of the controversial game of child custody. There is no substitute for preparation. White reveals judges, attorneys and court experts for their bias and incompetence. The author takes you through the step-by-step formula for winning with evidence.

Parenting with the Ex Factor: How to raise children in a Complex Family

admin — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 13:02:20 +0000

Parenting with the Ex Factor is positive, practical, and real – it’s a book for those who are, or have been, involved in separation or divorce.

Over 400 pages that explain how to practically parent beyond separation, including the answers to over 60 of the most Frequently Asked Questions gathered through Jill’s years of counselling and coaching. “I can assure you, divorce is not a life sentence to parental failure.

Be encouraged – it can be the beginning of a foundation firmly based on living a more authentic and meaningful life with your children. Your children can also have the best of both worlds, as my children frequently describe their lives.” “Throughout these pages, you will read part of my own story and learn about those things that have worked well and those that have not.

You will read about others who have walked their path and the effects of their choices. All of this combines to form a uniquely positive perspective on parenting beyond separation; the focus is on raising children who are free from the separation scars that have become painfully normal.”

Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends

admin — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 21:35:16 +0000

A friend lent me this book when my husband left me and I was in the depths of dispair. I was reading anything I could find to try and help me understand, but this is the one book that really helped. I latched onto it like a life-preserver to a drowning person. I have read each chapter several times now, and keep getting more out of it as I progress in my healing. I returned my friend’s copy and bought my own (which I have now in turn lent to a friend in need.)

One of the revelations I found comforting was simply to know what the physical symptoms of grief are – that my sore throat, my aching chest and my dry mouth were all manifestations of my emotional trauma.

This book felt like I was talking to a friend who had been there and back, and could take me by the hand through the healing process and help me find my way back to joy. Please read it if you are hurting from the loss of a relationship – it will comfort you a great deal and help you move forward constructively. Then lend it to someone you know who could be helped by it.

Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce

admin — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 21:28:16 +0000

Kids tend to blame themselves when parents divorce. The Sandcastles workshop–now mandatory in over a dozen counties throughout the United States–is a half-day group session for children of divorce between the ages of 6 and 17. This intensive workshop helps kids open up and deal with their feelings through drawings, games, poetry, role playing, and other activities. Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce details many of the workshop exercises, all designed to increase communication, understanding, and togetherness between parents and kids. The book is also packed full of suggestions on everything from the best way to break the divorce news to a child (it differs according to age group) to facing the holidays, visitation, custody arrangements, anger, discipline, co-parenting, single parenting, overcompensation, sorrow, custody fights, and much more.

Author Gary Neuman never patronizes or preaches, and although he is technically a child advocate, he proves himself to be an advocate of every member of the divorcing family. Neuman takes a hands-on approach and believes that children need not be permanently scarred by divorce–that with work and time, divorce can actually become a positive force for change. A powerful tool for protecting children caught amid parental struggles, Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce should be required reading in all divorcing families. –Ericka Lutz