How to Survive a Divorce
How to Survive a Divorce
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Divorce can be difficult – but there are things you can do to make it less difficult that will give you the best chance to achieve the best possible solutions. Anger, hurt, sadness , confusion, frustration and resentment are very real, reasonable emotions during the divorce process. Staying stuck (or being dragged unwillingly back by the various unending circumstances of the day) in these emotions can completely weaken your reasoning and decision-making abilities. They can also rob you of your future happiness. Humor and laughter can increase your chances of divorce success.
Steps
- Take care of yourself. You may have heard it before and not really followed through, thinking that this would involved a large time or money commitment (e.g. new exercise program, new diet, extra sleep, etc). But taking care of yourself can be simple — for instance, just laughing more will make you feel better Laughter will improve your mental, emotional, and physiological well-being.
- Use your newfound well-being to have a wonderful evening with your children, or to keep your sanity and your peace while your spouse tries to rattle you, or to make a better divorce agreement decision, or to save an expensive call to your divorce lawyer just to vent. One thing is for sure – nothing bad will come of it.
- Look for new activities to pursue. Are there hobbies that you enjoy or new activities that you would like to explore? It is a good time to get involved in something that distracts your mind from the difficult time you have been going through and gives you a sense of fulfillment and enjoyment. Another idea is to consider volunteering – helping others in need is often a good way to distract you from your own pain.
Tips
- Go at your own pace. If your divorce is already Hell, and you can only handle one chuckle per week, start there. If your divorce process hasn’t begun yet, but your marriage has been Hell for a while, then maybe you might try 5 minutes of comedy a night.
Warnings
- Your future-ex-spouse might get very upset by your light-heartedness. It will show them that you are moving on. The best way to attract great things into your life is to be in a good emotional space.
Related wikiHows
- How to Overcome Sadness
- How to Choose the Right Divorce Lawyer
- How to Overcome the Fear of Marriage
- How to Live a Happy Married Life
- How to Deal With a Spouse’s Previous Marriage
Sources and Citations
- http://www.rightdivorcefoyou.com
- http://www.nridivorce.com
- http://www.heritage.org/Research/Family/BG1373.cfm
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How to Handle Divorce Anger
How to Handle Divorce Anger
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Anger is a normal emotion in the healing process in any divorce, but it becomes destructive when turned into rage and vindictiveness. Here are a few ways to get it out!
Steps
- Write it out. Often putting into words how you feel about the process, and your ex, is like taking a weight off your shoulders. It’s now spilling from your mind onto paper.
- Shout it out. Take a drive deep into country and yell with all your might. It’s amazing how good you’ll feel.
- Talk it out. At first, talking can be very theraputic. Speak to a trusted family member or friend. Constantly talking about your anger can be deconstructive so keep yourself in check.
- Think about what it is that you are angry about and at whom? Being retrospective about the role you played in the relationship can help you remove some of the anger.
- Choose your battles carefully and let the small stuff go. You are going through a lot; getting worked up about the small stuff will take the focus and energy off the big stuff.
Tips
- If you think you need professional help, by all means get it.
- Writing your anger out periodically can help clear your mind so you can enjoy the good stuff in life.
- Find something to do just for yourself, everyday, that you know always makes you feel good- a walk, gardening, working out or playing cards with friends.
Warnings
- Anger can build and become destructive if you don’t do something about it. So do something about it.
Related wikiHows
- How to Start Over Again
- How to Handle a Cheating Partner
- How to Choose the Right Divorce Lawyer
- How to Deal With Your Parents’ Divorce
- How to Survive a Divorce
Sources and Citations
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